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Sexuality

About sexuality

Sexuality includes attraction, orientation, and the ways people experience relationships and desire. It can be stable or fluid over time. A significant minority of Australians identify as LGBTQIA+, and uncertainty or stigma can affect wellbeing for many people.

How sexuality concerns can show up

  • Questioning or exploration: Uncertainty about attraction, labels, or how you want to identify.
  • Coming out decisions: Worry about disclosure to family, friends, or work.
  • Internalised stigma: Shame, self-criticism, or fear tied to identity.
  • Relationship differences: Navigating monogamy, non-monogamy, or mismatched expectations.
  • Cultural or faith conflicts: Tension between identity and community values.
  • Minority stress: Anxiety, low mood, or hypervigilance due to discrimination.

Further information about sexuality

  • Sexual orientation spectrum: Gay, lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, queer, and more.
  • Asexuality and aromanticism: Little or no sexual or romantic attraction.
  • Fluidity over time: Some people's sexuality evolves with life stages or experiences.
  • Minority stress: Ongoing stress linked to stigma or discrimination.
  • Relationship values: Clarifying needs around connection, commitment, and boundaries.

Self-help ideas for sexuality

  • Seek affirming communities, media, or peer support.
  • Read about diverse experiences to normalise your feelings.
  • Practise self-compassion and challenge harsh self-talk.
  • Set boundaries around disclosure that feel safe for you.
  • Reflect on values and what relationships feel healthy and true.

When to see a psychologist or counsellor

Support can help when sexuality-related stress is affecting wellbeing or relationships.

  • Confusion or distress about identity feels overwhelming.
  • Fear of coming out is impacting your life.
  • Relationships are strained by identity or disclosure issues.
  • You are coping with discrimination or past harm.

How we help with sexuality

  • Affirming, non-judgmental space to explore identity.
  • Support with coming out decisions and safety planning.
  • Skills for coping with minority stress and anxiety.
  • Couples or family support to strengthen understanding.